Hi there,
I am not sure if this is what you are after, but I'll add my two cents regardless:)
But first a qualification - I'm no expert and find washes difficult - but I've been experimenting with oils and oil washes. What I do is typically apply an oil wash over gloss coat (Future) which should be thoroughly cured. Then I wait until the thinners have evaporated, but the pigment is still wet, and with a Q-tip slightly dampened with thinners, wipe of the excess. This will hopefully leave the recesses filled with colour. Sometimes I have to do it more than once. I've never had the oil thinners damage the undersurface, except if it hasn't cured, but even than, nothing like you are describing.
I have also been experimenting with blending oils to create shades (off topic I know). For instance, the Tripe has lots of woodwork in the pit, so while my basecoat is still wet, I dabbed some dark brown along some of the corners and edges and blended that with the base colour, which creates a shadow effect where desired. Likewise, on higher planes, I dab a lighter tone, blend it in and voila. To blend I dab the brush - a quick but gentle stabbing motion - rather than drag the brush as you would when painting normally. This is a common technique when painting figures with oils.
Cheers,
John