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Modelers Lounge => How's it going? => Topic started by: mgunns on July 21, 2014, 05:26:22 AM
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Greetings all:
I don't know if this is the appropriate spot, but I wanted to pass on that my younger brother passed away on 2 July of 2014. He had cancer but had suffered a fall at his house on 26 June that he shared with our mother. He was rushed to a local hospital, cognizant and conversant. Whilst in the local hospital he fell again and sustained traumatic, catastrophic brain damage and was flown to Hennepin County Medical Center in Minneapolis on 27 June where he was put on life support. The neurologists told us that he would never regain consciousness, never open his eyes, never speak and be relegated to a feeding tube and sustained life support. My sister came in from Olympia WA, and on 2 July we decided, as painful as it was, to take him off life support. He passed later that day. My brother and I weren't close and had had an adversarial relationship most of our lives, but the last seven years he had made strides to right the many wrongs. I saw him on memorial day and he wasn't doing well with the cancer. We had a pleasant visit and had many phone calls in the preceding and ensuing months establishing a good relationship. We went on several motorcycle rides together during the past several years and always had a good time. He was our mothers care giver and now our family is in the process of getting her in assisted living. They had many friends and thankfully they are assisting with her care. They lived in Mora Minnesota, about 85 miles from where I live in New Richmond WI. I work two jobs and every Saturday, so thank God for the folks in Mora who are assisting. Any loss of a family member is traumatic but to loose ones younger brother was especially difficult for me for some reason that I am slowly processing and coming to grips with his passing. He was laid to rest with our maternal grandmother on 14 July with several of his friends and an especially good childhood friend who made a lengthy trip to be there.
The Forum and all of you on this Forum, although not knowing this, have been a major help, the hobby and seeing your work and enjoying the camaraderie of the Forum has been a major source of comfort and motivation for me. Blessings and many thanks to all of you.
Best
Mark
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Oh. My thoughts are with you and yours Mark. Condolences to your family and I hope you get your old Mum sorted comfortably. As well as losing your brother and her son I imagine it will be traumatic for her having to accept a change in life at her age.
If we have helped in a small way to make things more bearable for you then that's wonderful
Keith
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Mark,
My heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family for your loss.
May you find some comfort knowing that we're all pulling for you during these tough times.
Take care.
BVB
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My deepest condolences to you and your family!
Sasho
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My sincere regrets, Mark. That's terrible news. I'm glad you two were making gains to patch the relationship towards the end. I'd hate for you to live with that regret. I'm also glad that you've been able to take comfort in the people and things you find here. Another testament to what a great place this is.
Lindsay
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Sorry to hear this.
My thoughts are with you and all who loved him.
I wish you strenght and I hope the day when you can remember him with a smile will come soon.
Take care,
Robin
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I'm very sorry to hear about this Mark. My prayers are with you and your family.
Mark
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Mark,
I'm very sorry for your loss. It's good to know that you had reached some accommodation the past several years, spent some time with your brother, and have those happy times to remember. It's also good to know that you find comfort here in the group and the activities and I am pleased we can provide that.
Dwell on the good memories, my friend, and our thoughts are with you.
Cheers, and be blessed,
Lance
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Dear Mark
May I offer you and your family my most heartfelt condolences for your tragic loss. You are in my thoughts.
Best wishes
Nigel
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I'm deeply saddened to read of your brother's passing, my dear friend, but I'm happy to read that the two of you had been mending fences over the past few years. Your recent motor cycle rides together will be a comfort and a treasure for you for years to come. Bless you, Mark. Hope to see you soon.
Cheers,
Bud
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My sincere condolences Mark. Certainly must be a very tough time for you and your family; best wishes as you work through this.
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It was with much sorrow that I read your post Mark, Adrienne and I send our deepest and most heartfelt condolences and prayers to you and all your family during this very sad time.
Des.
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I'm very sorry to hear of your loss Mark , my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family .
Terri
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I'm sorry to learn that your brother passed away, mgunns. I never had a brother, but the closest friend I ever had to one recently passed away and I can only imagine how you feel. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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My sincere condolences Mark...you and your family are in our prayers.
Kreston
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So sorry to hear that news, Mark. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Ian
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Mark, I am so sorry to hear of your Brothers' passing. Please accept my
most heartfelt condolences for you and your family. I hope you will find a
little solace from your friends here.
Ernie
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Hello Mark,
I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. I think you all were very courageous to help him in his last minutes. You made the right decision but I know how hard this must have been for you my friend. But then again I am glad you came back together the last few years and that must be a comfort to you. May the forum be also a little comfort for you.
I wish you all the courage I can give you!
Kind regards
Patrick
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My deepest thanks to all of you who have posted a note so far. It is encouraging to read them all and I appreciate all of your comments and all of you so much. As we continue to march into the 21st century with all of its technology that seemingly erodes personal inter action, this forum is not one of those, it is just a different form of camaraderie and friendship building around a common interest. The keeping in touch with you folks on this forum by reading your posts, your interests and comments is a great way of developing ties that otherwise would never happen.
So, good people, thanks so much for your kind words, your thoughts and your prayers.
Best wishes
Mark
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Please accept my condolences for the loss of your brother Mark. I know how difficult it is to make the decision you made.
All the best.
Chris
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My condolences to you too Mark, and I agree with everything you said about the forum. It's great that the people on here can be a help in times like these.
Tom
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Dear Mark,
my deepest condolences to you and your family.
Stefan
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Mark,
Somehow I missed this until now. My Heartfelt condolences! Like Bud I am glad that you and your Brother were making things right between you! I am not exactly close to my siblings but at least we have no bad times to make up for. In the enf you and your Brother chose the right path, I am again sorry for your loss! As for your Mother I am in a similar siruation in that My Mother is suffering from Dementia and the State of Arizona is finding her an assisted living home. A long story best left untold here! My best to you,
RAGIII
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@ Chris, Tom, Stefan, Richard and RagIII, thanks again for your kind words, thoughts and taking the time to express them here on the Forum. I am glad for our last several years of an amicable relationship, we had some good times and that is what I recall.
@ RagIII, I can fully appreciate your situation with your mother. Mine might as well live in AZ with the distance and time factor. The state and county are in the process of getting her in assisted living. She doesn't have dementia but.........
Thanks again folks, your comments and well wishes duly appreciated.
Best
Mark
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Hello, Mark -
Only just picked up on this so my apologies for not replying sooner. I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother and wish to send you and your family my best wishes.
Best regards
Dave
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Hello Dave:
No worries mate, I appreciate your taking the time to respond. I rarely get to this side of the forum and didn't know it existed until a bit ago. Thanks for you kind thoughts, I certainly appreciate it.
Best
Mark
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So very sorry to hear of your loss. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
James
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Every now and again we get hit with a hammer blow we neither need nor deserve. The passing of time and the comfort of friends is what helps us carry on.
Alan.
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Sincere condolences.
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My deepest condolences to you Mark. It is a traumatic thing to suffer the loss of a close family member and it's to be hoped the support of forum members will bring some measure of consolation to you. I lost my brother 53 years ago and not a day goes by when I don't think of him.
Warmest thoughts to you
Dave Wilson
Gold Coast
Australia
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I'm very sorry to hear that extremely sad news Mark. My sincere condolences.
Best regards
Snowy
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Hello James, Al, Dave W, Snowy and Vincent M.
Thanks all for your kind words of encouragement.
@ Dave W. 53 years is a long time but our loved are not forgotten. We remember the times, both good and bad. @ Alan: We sure do get with things from time to time and so unexpected.
@ James, Snowy and Vincent M. Thanks so much for taking the time to express your condolences.
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My condolences to you Mark and your Brother's Family and Friends.
Your story hits too close to home for me and I feel rather speechless.
I'm glad to hear that you were making amends, that's most important.
Best Wishes, Jay
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Mark I am sorry but I was away when this was first posted so I have only just seen it.
I wish to express my condolences to you and your family at what must be a very sad time indeed. You and they will be in my thoughts over the coming days and weeks.
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Hello Jay and LM:
Thanks to you both for taking the time to offer your condolences and thoughts. Things are progressing with my mother and it seems as if things will be working out for the best for all of us.
Many thanks to you all.
Best
Mark
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Mark,
Just saw this post. My deepest sympathies. I too lost my only brother very suddenly over 25 years ago. He was only 26. Like you, he and I were not close and after all these years I am still saddened by that. I'm glad you and your brother had some time to mend the fences. I hope that time together provides some strength to you during this tough time.
Mike
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Hello Mike:
Thanks for taking the time to send condolences and your experiences as well. It is tough loosing a sibing, i still can't get over it, hard to believe he is gone. It is nice that we have this forum and we can share our good times and our not so good times and people respond in such a kind way. Thanks again.
Best
Mark
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Very sorry to hear this Mark.