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Title: I have Lost My Wife
Post by: WD on January 10, 2026, 08:41:23 AM
In the wee, small dark hours before dawn on January 3rd, the light of my life was extinguished. The forty plus years I spent with her were a blessing I surely never deserved. She inspired me and drove me, and now I have to break trail on my own from here on out. I'm sure there's a trail there, but it's so overgrown with weeds, I can't see it,. It was stomach cancer, and by the time it was detected, it was far too late. (Her MS symptoms masked it.)

I sit here now like a bitter-nut hickory shading the porch of a house that's been torn down.

"But the good Lord knows the truth
Just like a old hickory
Shadin' the porch of a house that's been torn down
There ain't nothin' that's left but the memory
And that long, tall, scraggily, bitter nut old hickory"

I'm sure that one day, I'll return to the bench. This is the major reason my Nieuport builds stalled out, this last year has just been terrible, and this capped it off.

Warren D

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Title: Re: I have Lost My Wife
Post by: Brad Cancian on January 10, 2026, 08:54:06 AM
Oh my Warren, I am so, so sorry to hear. Words can't express how deeply the loss of a lifetime partner is; no doubt your world feels like it's upside down right now.

Take some time to celebrate her life and her impacts, and also make sure you're taking time for you to work through things. The bench will be there for you when you're ready.

I am hoping you have some family and friends around to support you - we're all here for you if you need anything or anyone to talk things over with.

Thinking of you my friend,

Brad C
Title: Re: I have Lost My Wife
Post by: lcarroll on January 10, 2026, 01:31:38 PM
   Oh my Warren, I am so saddened by your news. It's not easy to work through a loss such as this but trust me, time does eventually  heal and I speak from experience. Take comfort and faith in the great years you had; my loss was at the tender age of 42 with three son's left to raise on my own and dwelling on the good memories and believing in the good things still possible got me through it.
   You have a lot of friends here and respect; reach out here as you need and in your circle at home and with family as well. Take your time, and don't hesitate to reach out if you feel it could help.

Lance

Title: Re: I have Lost My Wife
Post by: WD on January 10, 2026, 11:20:37 PM
  but trust me, time does eventually  heal and I speak from experience. Take comfort and faith in the great years you had; my loss was at the tender age of 42 with three son's left to raise on my own and dwelling on the good memories and believing in the good things still possible got me through it.
   

Oh Lance, that is terrible! I am counting my blessings, thank you and thanks to the others for being here for me.

Warren D
Title: Re: I have Lost My Wife
Post by: macsporran on January 11, 2026, 02:56:49 AM
Dreadful news, Warren, the very worst.
No words can help but over time, you'll find you can still speak to those lost.
They can't reply, but they are still there.
Sandy
Title: Re: I have Lost My Wife
Post by: Dirigible-Al on January 11, 2026, 06:13:35 AM
Very sorry to hear this terrible news Warren. I know your pain.
Alan.
Title: Re: I have Lost My Wife
Post by: Richtrad on January 11, 2026, 07:29:57 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss as well Warren. I experienced the same thing 20+ years ago. As Lance said, time does indeed help.

Warren Q
Title: Re: I have Lost My Wife
Post by: WD on January 11, 2026, 10:36:36 AM
Thank you friends, it's nice to know I'm not busting trail on this alone.

Warren D
Title: Re: I have Lost My Wife
Post by: NigelR on January 11, 2026, 07:25:26 PM
Such sad news. My sincere condolences to you and your family Warren. This will be a tough time for you, our thoughts are with you. Sometimes doing simple things like making models might help your mind to drift away a bit and relax. Whatever you do, we are here for you if you need us.
Title: Re: I have Lost My Wife
Post by: FokkerFodder on January 12, 2026, 02:40:28 PM
So sorry to hear of your loss. All our thoughts are with you in what must be a really challenging time.

Take care
Matt
Title: Re: I have Lost My Wife
Post by: andonio64 on January 12, 2026, 06:52:17 PM
Dear Warren, I am so sad in reading these news, I know no words can help, but try to imagine how empathethic I am with you: My dear wife passed away in 2021 and I still can't believe this happened.  To my experience the best way now is to leave your grief flow, make it part of your life and it will slowly fade, probably never disappearing. I send you a big hug.
Antonio
Title: Re: I have Lost My Wife
Post by: RAGIII on January 13, 2026, 05:21:34 AM
I just saw that you made this post Warren. As you know you have My thoughts and Prayers, Not to Mention My support and complete understanding. Try to remember the Good Times and Stay Busy. It doesn't really take away the Pain, but it helps!
RAGIII/AKA Rick Geisler
Title: Re: I have Lost My Wife
Post by: pepperman42 on January 14, 2026, 11:11:25 AM
I am shedding tears right now. What a beautiful couple. Cherish your memories and any trail you need help with just ask.

Steve
Title: Re: I have Lost My Wife
Post by: WD on January 14, 2026, 12:12:15 PM
Thank you Rick and Steve. I went to my first grief counseling session today. Lucky for me, first one on the list was our old marriage counselor from 25+ years ago. A wonderful lady, and we had a great session.
I ordered her headstone today, and I return to work tomorrow in order to get back to a sane routine.

Warren D
Title: Re: I have Lost My Wife
Post by: bobs_buckles on January 15, 2026, 08:37:02 AM
Warren,
I offer my heartfelt condolences for the loss of your soulmate.
May the path before you be long and may it lead you back to the one you have cherished most.
God bless.

BB
 
Title: Re: I have Lost My Wife
Post by: WD on January 15, 2026, 10:33:48 AM
Thank you very much Bob.

Warren D
Title: Re: I have Lost My Wife
Post by: lone modeller on January 21, 2026, 05:57:52 AM
Just found this Warren: words cannot express my feelings for your loss. but be assured that I will be thinking about you. As others have written, time will heal some of the pain, but not all of it. However much the road ahead is covered in weeds, it is still there: have faith to keep moving forwards and be sure that there will always be others to accompany you.

Stephen.
Title: Re: I have Lost My Wife
Post by: WD on January 21, 2026, 09:27:32 AM
Thank you so very much Stephen.

Warren D.